Seek to understand, rather than to be understood... Listen when spoken to. Abandon your ideals to hear those of another. Listen with your heart and mind to what is being shared and understand the person speaking. Empathy, true empathy to spirit, one another and the universe... Amber | www.intothesoul.com
Soulmates seem to embody the ideal state of love, and just about everyone these days is on the hunt for theirs. They want to connect with their soulmate and in this relationship find a magical intense sense of being in-love, and happy. Ironically though, soul mate relationships are the most complicated, haunting and difficult ones we will ever enter into. These relationships are not the idyllic 'happy' pairing of two linked souls… Rather they are the turbulent and passionate meeting of two individuals with great unresolved history (karma) between them and feelings that run so deep that the way they feel about each other, barely make sense, even to themselves. True soul mates enter our lives with an incredible attraction and chemistry. This person is someone we are irresistibly drawn towards, we cannot turn ourselves away, we cannot push them out of our hearts or our minds. They are so familiar to us, they feel so connected, and so powerfully a part of us, that we cannot cut them off. The connection resonates within our soul to the degree that our very happiness seems dependent upon them. This person may not necessarily be our ''type'' - frequently we wonder what it is about them that we fell for in the first place. They may not meet our usual requirements of a partner, or our typical physical preferences, they may not share
[clear] [/clear]It’s hard to use the term “soulmate”, or think about finding your soulmate, without feeling a bit like you've suddenly swallowed a whole bunch of advertising cock and bull produced to eke your dollars away from you by the world of advertising. But seriously, not only do soulmates exist; all of us have them... and to make it slightly more confusing, we have more than one out there.. And to quote “Annie” (kind of), “A life without soulmates is like a night without stars” — a very dark night indeed. But don’t think because you are single that you’ve been left out of the soulmate phenomenon. It’s limiting to think that merging with your other half must be romantic in nature. Soulmates can be lovers, friends, family, members or even pets. While the universe might help us out in our quest to find them, it’s up to us to make sure we connect with them. Soulmate relationships seem so meant to be that it’s hard to imagine ever not knowing that person once you do. But just to be safe, below are some tips for making sure your soulmates in life don’t pass you by. 1. Instant recognition. Ami met her soulmate best friend 16 years ago on the first week of college when she made a snarky joke and her friend was the only person who laughed. One
In my search for everything helpful for you, I came across these words of wisdom from my dear friend Dr Phil! Here's the perspective of someone from a psychological background on matters of love and relationship. I think these are great questions to ask yourself BEFORE you come to see me!! If they don't pass the Dr Phil criteria... then maybe they're not worth doing a reading on? It will definitely give you some additional perspective on the matters troubling your heart.... xx Dr Phil on whether or not to let go of love? Have you been dumped, betrayed or left so heartbroken that you didn't ever want to love again? Are you still stuck on an ex and don't know how to move on? And how do you know when it's time to let go and look for love somewhere else? If you're "the other woman" who's waiting for a man to leave his lover, don't waste your time. "If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you," Dr. Phil says. The man you want lacks integrity and can't make a commitment. Are your standards too low? Dr. Phil asks a guest who's waiting around for a man that's let her down time and again: "What is it about you that causes you to settle for somebody that you know will cheat on you,
Few people would argue with the idea that honesty is the best policy. Policies however are not always adhered to, even those that we believe in and support. Regardless of how much we may desire to live a life of integrity in which we “walk the talk” and live in accordance with our inner principles, it’s likely that there will be times that we miss the mark. Nobody’s perfect. Every relationship is going to have occasional slippage. Great relationships however, require a high level of integrity in order to thrive. When a violation of trust, large or small, occurs it’s important to examine the conditions that contributed to the situation and to engage in a healing process that will restore trust and goodwill to the relationship. A betrayal is a broken agreement, implicit or explicit, that is considered vital to the integrity of a relationship. The capacity of a relationship to recover from a betrayal has a lot to do with the responses, particularly on the part of the betrayer to the situation. The more open and non-defensive they are, the more likely it is that there will be resolution. When both partners are committed to this as an outcome, the likelihood increases exponentially. When there has been a cover-up to a transgression, the lies and denials can do much more damage to the integrity
Is he or she going to come back to me? "Will he come back to me?" is one of the questions I hear every single day in my work. It is this question alone that brings many people to a spiritual counsellor, like me, for the first time. They need answers, they need insight and they want to know if there's a light at the end of the tunnel, if this pain will be taken away. It's human nature; everyone wants to know whether the one that they love, the source of their heartache will return having realised the stupidity of leaving someone as special as ourselves. So this is the state many arrive in when they come for a reading; and it tends to set my internal alarm bells off. It is not an empowering question to ask, nor is it really helpful either… and the worst thing about it is that a positive response can really do little more than allay your fears temporarily and quite possibly see you putting your life in limbo as you faithfully wait on this person's return at the expense of your own self esteem and personal growth. And then what happens if when they return nothing has changed with them? That will be no good. If nothing has changed you can be sure you are going to
"Should I wait … will he/she return??" This is one of the most heart breaking questions anyone ever asks… poignant, earnest, and sadly hopeful. It doesn't sound like a biggie does it? But the depth of meaning behind this simple question is incredible. Within it lie so many feelings, hopes, and fears... "should I wait?" can be understood as: Is there any hope left? Can I please, please hold on to my hopes and dreams? Can I still believe that there is a chance for my love to work out? Does my heart need to break? Do I really have to open myself to this suffering? Are they just having a ''moment'' and will change their minds? Must I begin grieving for this? Do I have to accept this as a reality? Have they really gone and left me? Am I really alone? I am scared I will not be able to handle the pain I am going to feel? I do not know how to live without them? Will I be alone forever? Will love ever return to my life…? Many people in their attempt to avoid the above scenario, hold on firmly to the notion that "yes he/she will return to you." The problem with this, even if it is in fact true, is that by refusing to enter into the aftermath of a relationship
