will they come back to me?

"Should I wait … will he/she return??" This is one of the most heart breaking questions anyone ever asks… poignant, earnest, and sadly hopeful. It doesn't sound like a biggie does it? But the depth of meaning behind this simple question is incredible. Within it lie so many feelings, hopes, and fears... "should I wait?" can be understood as: Is there any hope left? Can I please, please hold on to my hopes and dreams? Can I still believe that there is a chance for my love to work out? Does my heart need to break? Do I really have to open myself to this suffering? Are they just having a ''moment'' and will change their minds? Must I begin grieving for this? Do I have to accept this as a reality? Have they really gone and left me? Am I really alone? I am scared I will not be able to handle the pain I am going to feel? I do not know how to live without them? Will I be alone forever? Will love ever return to my life…? Many people in their attempt to avoid the above scenario, hold on firmly to the notion that "yes he/she will return to you."  The problem with this, even if it is in fact true, is that by refusing to enter into the aftermath of a relationship