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How To Fall In Love With Anyone

How To Fall In Love With Anyone How to get anyone to fall in love with you... Arthur Aron, fascinated by romantic love, researched how it would be possible to create intimacy and romance between any two people.  His study focused on bringing together any two strangers and understanding what it took to bring forth feelings of connection, attraction, and emotional intimacy. Following are the 36 questions Aron ultimately determined most successful in bringing a couple closer together. These questions are meant to be worked through in a 45-minute time frame, with each person asking the other a question in turn. The last question is to be followed by looking into one another’s eyes for 4 minutes. First Set of Questions Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest? Would you like to be famous? In what way? Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? What would constitute a perfect day for you? When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? Name

Is This Person Good For Me? How To Understand A Person Deeply

When we meet someone new, one of the first questions we ask ourselves will be, 'is this person good for me?' Understanding whether a person will make a positive impact in our lives is important. It helps us to prioritize the importance we attribute to the relationship, the amount of effort we invest, and the

Boost your Love Life

Boost Your Love Life Research says the more you love, and the more love you feel, the happier you will be... so let's get busy:  Engage in a love and gratitude meditation. Find a comfortable and quiet space. Calm your mind. Wish yourself and others happiness and peace. Picture moments of happiness in your life. Feel the strong emotions that bond you to the people you shared those times with. Think of how special the people you love are. Notice in feeling love for others, you simultaneously feel loved yourself. You cannot give love without feeling love. Remind yourself that you too are loved. Send out well wishes or prayers for good fortune. Perhaps "May my friend be strong and find great happiness.'' Picture this in your minds' eye as you think/say it. If you prefer you may repeat a mantra. Do this for as long as you feel comfortable. This type of meditation makes you feel more connected to the people around you, and more able to see the positive aspects of those who are close to you. Focusing on love also boosts gratitude and your ability to appreciate your natural environment and its non-human inhabitants as well. Here's to love! Amber | www.intothesoul.com

Splitting

Splitting, written by Bill Eddy, helps you protect yourself during a separation or divorce from a high-conflict personality. This book was written as a guide to help people protect themselves from being manipulated, the subject of false accusations, and abuse. Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has a high conflict personality, borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better-many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. This book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you - Harbinger Press Biography: Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, has been a family lawyer for over eighteen years and a therapist for over twelve years.

Healing Heartbreak: Healing Your Heart

Healing Heartbreak We've all been through heartache, but heartbreak is in a category all of its own. It is one of the worst kinds of pain that we experience. When heartbroken you literally feel as if you will never recover from the pain of loss you are experiencing. It becomes impossible to picture a future for yourself as you truly do not know how you will get through the day ahead of you. You actually cannot imagine going through an hour of the day, without thinking about or wishing for the person you have lost. Nothing takes away this sadness, it is as if you could drown in it. More than anything I have put these thoughts down to try and help a little bit. There is no magic cure-all but there are some ways you can try and manage yourself through this painful and desperate time. Please when you are reading through these suggestions try and keep in the mind the idea that the recovering from heartbreak is a journey. It is not a life-sentence, or an interminably revolving door. Seeing it as a journey will empower you and help you survive it.healing heartbreak Accept your state of being. Acknowledge to yourself that your heartbreak is one of the most incredibly devastating pains you have experienced, and respect your suffering. You need to do this

DeadBeat Parents Are In The News – Everyone’s Talking

RePost - Courier Mail, DeadBeat Parents Watch Out. Too Good. Repost Required. Boys' toys in their millions are being seized from daddy scrooges who are snubbing their legal requirements to pay child support. Boats, property, cars and other luxury items worth up to $4 million were seized last year from 172 parents, who had claimed they could not afford to pay child support or just did not want to fork out the cash for their children. And the latest data obtained by The Courier-Mail shows the second-highest debt belongs to Queenslanders, who are owed almost $288 million. Nationally, more than $1 billion is owed. But money recovered by court orders and other measures do not come close to what is owed. Last financial year, more than $25 million in outstanding child support payments were recovered through tax lodgement enforcements, $116 million was seized from intercepting tax refunds and almost $7 million was collected from departure prohibition orders - whereby parents are refused to leave the country unless they pay what is owed. The rising debt puts pressure on Social Services Minister Kevin Andrews to reform the system, which can leave some parents, who are owed money, turning to welfare for help. More than 5 million Australians receive welfare in some form. Mr Andrews refused to buy into the issue on Monday. But tough-talking Human Services

4 Relationship Warning Signs Everyone Should Know About

4 Relationship Warning Signs Everyone Should Know About Even if you've been somewhat happy with your significant other for quite a while, there are some relationship warning signs you can't ignore. They can turn into massive outbursts as fast as you can say break-up. If your loved one shows any of the following signs, it's time to discuss some matters.   They Don't Give You Any Space One of the first relationship warning signs you'll notice is the constant need for overstepping boundaries. Here are some aspects you should watch out for: Your partner makes insensitive jokes at your expense. Between the two of you, certain boorish jokes can be fun. But in front of your friends, this can become a problem. Your loved one forces you to share private information. Constant nagging about something you deem confidential is a red flag. Sure, you shouldn't hold secrets from each other, but everyone deserves the right to privacy. They don't approve of (most of) your friends. Not liking one or two of your friends is fine. Not everyone can get along. But if you spend more time struggling to maintain peace than enjoying your relationship, something's wrong. Immaturity Is among Those Relationship Warning Signs You Don't Want to Deal with Emotional maturity is a major quality. If you've settled down, but your lover still acts like

7 Types Of Toxic People That Are Holding You Back

  7 Types of Toxic People that Are Holding You Back When people don't make any progress in life, their first instinct is to blame themselves. After all, aren't we the ones who are responsible for the choices we make in life? Sure, that's true. However, sometimes, your lack of achievements isn't due to your personal shortcomings. Sometimes, such issues stem from the toxic people in your life. Naturally, spotting the people who are holding you back isn't a walk in the park. They tend to blend in rather well, and even try to deceive you at times - often laying the blame on you!   Well, I've decided to offer a helping hand. Here are seven types of toxic people you should avoid in life: The Judgmental This kind of toxic person is rather hard to spot. That's because they don't seem out of the ordinary at first. However, there's one way to tell them apart from the rest: They have a massive ego. Nothing will ever be good enough to satisfy them. You could have the best intentions in the world, but it just won't matter to them. I don't recommend wasting time trying to please them - it will just cause you unnecessary pain and turmoil. It's best to just cut these toxic people out of your life altogether. The Stagnant These

4 Types of People That Are Harming Your Spiritual Health

  Our disposition, happiness and even way of thinking depend on the people that surround us. If someone in your life is harming your spiritual health, you should address that. If they don't change, the best thing you can do is to cut any ties with them. It's important that you recognize the type of people that will drag you down. Here are four of them: The Judgmental If most of your conversations with a friend are you talking about your ideas and them shutting you down, you're dealing with a judgmental. Instead of finding the positive aspect, they go out of their way to find the bad part. These people surround themselves with negativity. They are harming your spiritual health and slowly turning you into another negative person. Listen to judgmental people too much and you'll lose sight of your dreams. They'll make you think your aspirations are impossible to achieve. Not every idea will be a winner, but they all teach you lessons. Constructive criticism is fine, but you can go without people always talking you down. The Envious The judgmental is just a negative person. It's how they are. The jealous type, however, will consciously concentrate negativity towards you. There isn't a certain way the envious is harming your spiritual health. They will dislike you for your successes and think of ways to hurt you. Anyone could come up with something

How to Attract More Love in Your Life and Form Meaningful Connections  

Everybody is different. We all have our own aspirations, frustrations, and principles that guide us through life. The list could go on forever. But if there is one thing that unites us all, that is our desire to feel loved. We all want to attract more love in our lives because we've come to realize that it's the secret code to true happiness.  In today's day and age, it is easier to interact with others than ever. The irony is that it's harder to form deep, meaningful connections than it has ever been. As a result, more and more people start feeling lonely. Even worse, they lose hope that true love is somewhere out there waiting for them. Instead of focusing on the lack of love in your life, why not be a part of the solution? In this article, I am going to give you some life-changing tips on how you can draw more love in your life starting today. Learn to Love Yourself First You can't attract more love in your life if you are not happy with yourself. So you need to put yourself first. That's great advice, but how exactly are we supposed to do it?  This is what I suggest: Spend more quality time alone. I know this sounds like the exact opposite of what you need. However, before you can learn to love yourself,

4 Pieces of Advice on How to Find Your Soulmate

4 Pieces of Advice on How to Find Your Soulmate When it comes to relationships, everyone is trying to find "The One", namely that one person out there who is destined to be their other half. However, you can't just rely on cheesy comedy movies if you want to find your soulmate, since that won't get you anywhere. Fortunately for you, there are certain things you can keep in mind that will actually make everything much easier. Here are 4 things to take into consideration if you want to find your soulmate: 1. Always follow your instinct It's only natural to expect the Universe to guide you to your other half, but you also need to rely on your intuition. Just because you will meet somebody by accident does not mean you will find your soulmate. It's a little more complicated than that. Always listen to your instincts, since they will tell you if the person you just met is right for you or not. The Universe is definitely a good guide, but your own intuition is even better, since it knows you best. All in all, it does come down to patience if you want to look at it that way. But it will be patience which will be significantly rewarded in the long run. Writing a list can help you find your soulmate

How to Move On

If you’re hurting right now, not sure how you're going to recover or what the future could hold for you, and feeling overall emotionally devastated, than this is for you. The help you need to start moving forward with your life is here. Over the last few days I’ve been encountering the same question over and over again from people facing traumatic events in their lives that have left them feeling broken and hurt; “how do I let go and get past feeling this way?” and, “how do I move on?” Unfortunately, there’s no magic fix, and my heart really goes out to all of you feeling ‘stuck’ because I truly do know how awful this feels.  It’s an ongoing state of pain that really feels like it will never ever end or let go of your heart. Whilst there is no quick-fix solution to getting over it, there are things you can do that will help you make progress. These include: Accepting your reality Taking responsibility Committing to healing Accepting reality The first thing you need to do is be very honest with yourself and really accept the reality of your circumstances. Yes, it is hard, but this is your life and it is real, and for the sake of your emotional and mental health you have to acknowledge the pain you are in and

Narcissistic Charm – Beware

Sometimes the charm of a narcissist inhibits you from seeing their narcissism. When you first met your heir spouse, there was something about them that was enticing. There was what seemed like an irresistible pull to someone who perfectly matched your needs and wants, it seemed a match made in heaven. However, the fairy tale engagement and marriage came to an abrupt halt the day you walked down the aisle. The narcissistic spouse said you had changed and you believed your spouse. So desperate to return back to the fairy tale, you became whatever your narcissist demanded. But it was not enough. The more you acquiesced, the more ultimatums surfaced. Narcissistic Charm Desperate to find another solution, you finally begin to look at your spouse’s behavior. Could they be narcissistic? What does a narcissistic spouse even look like? Here are some signals to look out for. Does your spouse … Expects you to meet their needs at all times? You are required to anticipate what, how, and when they need admiration and adoration. This is a one-way street where you give, they take but they don’t give in return. Projects their negative characteristics onto you? They say you are needy, never satisfied, ungrateful for all they do, and have unreasonable expectations. Yet your friends and family have not verbalized any such complaints about you. Get jealous

Understanding the Narcissist

A Narcissist’s life is filled with anxiety. The need to alleviate these anxieties is what drives much of their behavior. They are a walking contradiction with desires to have emotional security and a need to be alone at the same time. On top of the need to alleviate themselves of anxiety, their actions are also self-esteem driven. Because he derives his sense of self-worth from the people and things in his environment, the choices he makes and the things he does reflect that. Most of the time he isn’t thinking of anyone else. He’s thinking, ‘how does this make me look,’ hurting you is usually an unfortunate repercussion he often never even considered. So in these two respects he is not really aware of his behavior. However, we all know that if we want X to happen we must do Y to achieve the desired result. For instance, if you want a paycheck you must get up and go to work every day. If we are looking at the manipulative aspect of a Narcissist, abso-freakin-lutely he is aware that he is manipulating you. Some Narcissists are more manipulative than others, but believe me when he wants something from you, he’s going to tell you what you want hear, or do what he needs to, to get it, knowing full well, he has no intention of

Marriage advice I WISH I’d had

Gerald Rogers was divorced after 16 years of marriage. Recently he wrote an eye-opening, public confession on his blog... my heart goes out to him and I couldn't agree with him more. MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD by Gerald Rogers Obviously, I'm not a relationship expert. But there's something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different... After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here's the advice I wish I would have had... 1) NEVER STOP COURTING. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. 2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let

Finding Real Love

Finding real love - Three Steps that will work. Feeling the love Admit it. How much are you judging them? How much do you want them to be different from the way they are? If you want to feel loved, you have to LOVE. And you have to love honestly, humbly, and fully (even when they don’t do something the way you would). There are so many different things you could find to love about the people that cross your path each day, that it's actually quite mind-blowing. Really, it is. The truth is, that every single one of them has many great qualities, lots of loveable quirks a beating heart and a sense of humour - in other words a lot to love. But if you aren't feeling ''the love'',  and you aren't feeling loved either, it's got a hell of a lot to do with the fact that you're not looking for what you can love about others. (you're seeing the ''other stuff'' - that doesn't help you!!) Don’t use this as a reason to think you’re a failure. If you blame yourself or beat yourself up for your shortcomings, that’s not finding things to love about others. Just find things to love about others. That’s it. Being the Love Yes of course you've heard this before. I know you have. I know you know, in theory at least

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